It is a myth that any of us have not had problems, sorrows, losses in our life that somehow we are perfect and without need to improve or develop. I have seen too many people so deeply ashamed about their past imperfections that they go to great lengths to hide it and disguise it. What then evolves is a fragile carapace/veneer of calm, order and control that is defended through artifice, deceit and spite.
I am much more interested in how we could turn our flaws into features that could be celebrated and admired, drawn attention to and an explicit part of the deal rather than hidden from sight.
This love of damage and embracing of the flawed and imperfect can be found in two Japanese concepts/art practices. Kintsukuroi/kingsugi is a way of repairing broken pottery and drawing attention to the site of repair. Also wabi-sabi is a Japanese aesthetic that seeks art to consider the not so perfect.
I love the idea of this and wish to explore how these concepts can inform and enhance professional practice, in particular in helping relationships in the human services. Let’s celebrate our flaws and stop trying so hard to hide from ourselves and others our past hurts, traumas etc.